Are you bidding for emotional connection? Why not!
Are you bidding for emotional connection? Why not!
Atomic Ideas on building better connections
"The quality of our relationships determines the quality of our lives."
Like it or not, we all are born with an ‘emotional’ bank account - a term I got to know from the book “Relationship cure” by John M. Gottman. The book offers a revolutionary five-step model for building better connections with family, friends, and colleagues.
Expect a wealth of practical insights into the science of relationships, emphasizing emotional intelligence, effective communication, and the power of small gestures.
Doesn’t matter what age group you fall in - this book has something for everyone!
Sharing Atomic Ideas from the book.
The Importance of Emotional Connection
Gottman emphasizes the role of emotional connection in relationships.
He argues that successful relationships are those where individuals understand and respond to each other’s emotional needs, creating a sense of belonging and security.
Are you bidding?
In this book, Dr. Gottman introduces the concept of "bids" for emotional connection, which are attempts to gain attention, affirmation, and affection from others. Recognizing and responding to these bids is crucial for relationship success.
Bids can be small gestures, like a smile or a question, and how we respond to them—either by turning toward, turning away, or turning against—determines the strength of our relationships.
The Power of Dialogue
Effective dialogue is key to resolving conflicts and building understanding.
Positive interactions are deposits, while negative interactions are withdrawals.
Gottman emphasizes the importance of active listening and empathetic communication.
The 5 types of bids
The five steps include (1) noticing bids, (2) turning toward bids, (3) talking about your feelings, (4) asking for what you need, and (5) building a culture of appreciation.
Understanding Relationship Dynamics
Gottman’s research highlights the importance of understanding the dynamics of a relationship.
This includes recognizing patterns of interaction and the underlying emotions that drive these patterns.
The Role of Perception
Perception plays a crucial role in relationships.
How we perceive our partners’ actions and intentions can significantly impact our reactions and the overall relationship quality.
Emotional Intelligence in Relationships
Emotional intelligence is key to relationship success.
It involves recognizing, understanding, and managing our own emotions and the emotions of others.
Empathy is the antidote to isolation and disconnection in relationships.
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